I AM HER™ Cenequa Nikkole is a motivational life coach and personal stylist, empowering others to achieve their goals is my passion. A Disabled Army Veteran with a Bachelor's in Criminal Justice, Associate's in Cosmetology, and certifications in wedding planning and life coaching, I bring a fresh unique blend of experience and expertise to my work. After a decade of honorable service, I transitioned my dedication to helping others succeed in business, lifestyle, relationships, and personal style.
Cenequa Nikkole
I AM Your Motivation
I DON'T LOOK LIKE WHAT I'VE SURVIVED:
My Journey to Self-Love brought me to my purpose & passion!
During my military career, I faced battles far beyond the battlefield. My first husband, a successful Sergeant in the United States Army, was a man I once believed would love and protect me, but behind closed doors, his deep seated insecurities, rooted in childhood trauma, turned him into someone I barely recognized. Being eight years younger than him and new to love, I blamed myself for his unhealed wounds.
For years, I kept the domestic abuse silent, convincing myself–through his words– that it would never happen again, but the cycle continued. I endured physical abuse, threats on my life, and even the terrifying moments when he put a gun down my throat. I lived in fear, trapped by the hope that things would change.
The day I finally left was both terrifying and necessary. Walking away marked the turning point– a shift in me setting boundaries and choosing self- love over fear. It was the beginning of a long journey toward healing; however, my trials didn't end there.
My second brush with survival came at the hands of another male soldier. What started as an ordinary day turned into a nightmare when he held me at knifepoint, barricading me inside my military barracks room for over 24 hours. In those moments, my life flashed before me countless times. I prayed out loud, clinging to the hope that I would make it out alive and by the grace of God I did.
These experiences shaped me but they did not define me but instead fuels me as Now a Life/ Style Coach to Inspire to Aspire others to Live, Laugh and Love and find and fall in love with The best version of themselves. I realized that the pain I endured was never my burden to carry nor was it my most defining moment– it was never my fault. The fault lay in the broken people I encountered, not in the places I traveled or the life I was building.
Through it all, I learned that true healing requires unpacking the baggage of trauma, carefully sorting through the pain and leaving behind what no longer serves us. I refuse to carry the weight of those experiences into my future. Instead, I embraced self-love, sought mental and emotional healing, and allowed myself to rediscover joy. In that space of healing, I found love again.
I am now 24 years into a beautiful marriage with the most remarkable man– a man I met on my road to recovery. Loving him was possible because I first learned to love myself. I embraced the healed version of me, allowing love to flourish beyond my scars.
So when people look at me today, they may never guess what I've survived. BUT I know. I stand here, not as a victim, but as a survivor– stronger, wiser and free.
